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  1. For me is vulnerability. As A child, I was told don’t depend on me. If you hungry, don’t ask for nothing. If you scared don’t show it. If your feelings hurt don’t show it. This was common for some blacks to learn to suppress everything. This in turn made me more prone to aggressive outburst and destructive behaviors, hypertension and brushes with law enforcement. This ritual has been passed on until this day in the black community.

    1. Alaafia;

      Thank you for opening up about this issue. It is a topic of much contemplation and the introspection one has to do is not a “cake-walk.” But through Oyeku Irosun, we must learn to measure the worthiness of the voices we still harbor from our childhood. We must ask ourselves what if any of the council which served us well as a child may be hindering our growth as an adult. Just as our parents faulted with us in certain areas shall we too fail with our children or those whom look up to us for leadership, advice, and council. The best we can do is identify “THAT” which we can stop from propagating forward, and promote what is healthy and liberating.

      Thank you for your visit and for sharing your experience.

      Ogbó àtó Asure Ìwòrìwòfún.

      O dábò!
      Chief Awodele Ifayemi
      Atunwase Awo of Ilobulan
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