Sexual addiction and narcissism can be a harmful and destructive combination that affects individuals and their relationships. As a Babalawo, I have seen the devastating effects firsthand. In this article, I will discuss the signs of narcissistic sexual behavior, tips for identifying it in a partner, and treatment options for those diagnosed with narcissism or who display narcissistic sexual behaviors.
Signs of Narcissistic Sexual Behavior
Sexual narcissism is a pattern of behavior in which an individual has an excessive preoccupation with their own sexual needs and desires, often at the expense of their partner’s needs and desires. Some signs of narcissistic sexual behavior include:
- Excessive focus on their own pleasure during sex, with little regard for their partner’s experience.
- Using sex as a tool for manipulation or control in the relationship.
- Engaging in risky or dangerous sexual behaviors, without regard for the potential consequences.
- A constant need for attention and validation from their partner, even when it is not reciprocated.
- An inability to handle criticism or rejection, leading to explosive or defensive behavior.
Tips for Identifying Narcissistic Sexual Behavior in a Partner
If you suspect your partner may be displaying narcissistic sexual behavior, it is important to approach the situation with care and seek professional help if necessary. Here are some tips for identifying the behavior in your partner:
- Pay attention to their behavior in the bedroom. Are they overly focused on their own pleasure? Do they disregard your needs and desires?
- Look for signs of manipulation or control in the relationship. Does your partner use sex to get what they want, or to punish you for not complying with their demands?
- Notice any risky or dangerous sexual behaviors, such as unprotected sex or infidelity.
- Take note of your partner’s overall behavior outside of the bedroom. Do they display narcissistic traits in other areas of their life, such as work or social relationships?
Advising and Supporting Those Experiencing Abuse from a Partner with Sexual Narcissism
If you are experiencing abuse from a partner with sexual narcissism, it is important to seek help from a qualified therapist or support group. Here are some tips for advising and supporting those experiencing abuse:
- Validate their experience and let them know that the abuse is not their fault.
- Encourage them to seek professional help and provide resources for therapy or support groups.
- Help them to create a safety plan and provide practical support, such as helping them to find a safe place to stay.
Treatment Options and Tips for Those Diagnosed with Narcissism or Displaying Narcissistic Sexual Behaviors
Treatment for narcissism and narcissistic sexual behaviors often involves a combination of therapy and medication. Here are some treatment options and tips:
- Psychotherapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, can help individuals to identify and change their narcissistic behaviors.
- Medications, such as antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications, may be prescribed to manage underlying mental health conditions that contribute to narcissistic behavior.
- Support groups, such as Narcotics Anonymous or Sex Addicts Anonymous, can provide a safe and supportive environment for individuals to address their addiction and narcissism.
What Does Ifá Say About Narcissistic Sexual Behavior
I can confirm that Ifa provides guidance and teachings on various aspects of life, including sexual behavior and narcissism. There are several Odus that speak on this topic, and I will share some of them below, along with their teachings and advice.
- Odu Ejiogbe:
In Odu Ejiogbe, Ifa teaches that a person who is excessively selfish or vain will ultimately suffer, as their selfishness will lead them to offend the gods and ancestors. The advice given in this Odu is to cultivate humility and avoid greed and selfishness.
- Odu Ogbe Wunle:
In Odu Ogbe Wunle, Ifa speaks on the dangers of sexual addiction and urges the individual to seek balance and moderation in their sexual behavior. The advice given in this Odu is to prioritize self-control and cultivate healthy relationships based on mutual respect and trust.
- Odu Irete Meji:
In Odu Irete Meji, Ifa warns against the dangers of pride and arrogance, which can lead to destructive behavior and harm to others. The advice given in this Odu is to cultivate humility and avoid vanity and self-importance.
- Odu Obara Meji:
In Odu Obara Meji, Ifa speaks on the importance of self-awareness and the need to understand one’s own motivations and desires. The advice given in this Odu is to seek guidance from wise elders and to avoid becoming overly attached to material possessions or external validation.
- Odu Ika Meji:
In Odu Ika Meji, Ifa teaches that a person who is overly concerned with their own pleasure and gratification will ultimately suffer, as their selfishness will lead to negative consequences. The advice given in this Odu is to cultivate empathy and compassion for others and to avoid self-centered behavior.
The advice given in these Odus emphasizes the importance of humility, self-control, self-awareness, empathy, and compassion, and warns against the dangers of pride, vanity, and selfishness. As Babalawos, we can use these teachings to help individuals seeking guidance and support in dealing with sexual addiction and narcissism, by providing them with a spiritual framework for self-improvement and personal growth.
Conclusion
Narcissistic sexual behavior can be harmful to individuals and their relationships. Identifying the signs and seeking help is essential to healing and creating healthy, fulfilling relationships. I encourage anyone experiencing these issues to seek professional help and support. Remember, recovery is possible with the right treatment and support.
